
The Places that Scare You by Pema Chodron
“For instance, even in the rock hardness of the aggression, we’ll generally find fear. Underneath the defensiveness is the brokenhearted, unshielded quality of bodhichitta. Rather than feel this tenderness, however, we tend to close down and protect against the discomfort.” pg. 56
Teaser Tuesdays is hosted by Should Be Reading.

Thanks to Book Bird Dog for giving this to me.
“This award acknowledges the values that every blogger shows in his or her effort to transmit cultural, ethical, literary, and personal values every day.”
Now for the silly part:
“The rules to follow are:
1) Accept the award, post it on your blog together with the name of the person who has granted the award and his or her blog link. 2) Pass the award to 15 other blogs that are worthy of this acknowledgment. Remember to contact the bloggers to let them know they have been chosen for this award.”
I think it is rather ridiculous to create an award, and then devalue it by making it a chain letter. I’m accepting it from Book Bird Dog because she stuck to just a few blogs that were really nice to read through, and I will do the same. I don’t even read 15 other blogs regularly, but here are a few that I really do enjoy.
Naked Without Books – Susan is an English instructor in S. Korea and has just participated in a 24-hour read-a-thon.
Lotus Reads – book reviews of a worldly nature.
While Sleepwalking – My dear friend has not blogged in a little while, but the past book reviews and European travels are well worth reading through.
Lessons from the Monk I Married – A great narrative of a woman who married a South Korean monk she befriended while working overseas.
The News Dissector – He dissects the news. A great blog with lots of information, video clips, and links.
Rebecca Hosking Travel Examiner – a great friend of mine who has been to over forty countries talks about them one country at a time.
Filed under: Books
Jennygirl is hosting a raffle for:
After her son’s death, Pam Cope travels to Vietnam, Cambodia, and Ghana to help ease her pain by easing other’s.
(I am NOT hosting this giveaway – you have to click on the link above and go to Jennygirl’s site.)
Filed under: Books | Tags: Frank Lloyd Wright, T.C. Boyle, Taliesin, The Women
In The Women, T.C. Boyle once again takes on a key figure of American culture, and paints a picture of their life from the point of view of the people around that person. Frank Lloyd Wright proved to be an amazingly innovative architect, although it seems often his structures defied structure in their leaky forms. He was also something of a playboy. He had four wives (well, three and one murdered mistress), and in Boyle’s book, he outlines them in reverse order starting with Olgivanna, a woman from Montenegro he seduces at one of his many parties with intellectuals and world travellers.
His life with Olgivanna is almost destroyed by the wife he was still married to when their romance evolved. Miriam was a hot-headed, opium addicted, glamour queen who even after years never forgave Wright for his infidelity.


The story moves on to Mamah, the lover killed at the Taliesin estate, where all of his wives toiled over growing food for the masses that stayed with them. There was little money to go around, as at the time Lloyd’s career was growing was during the depression. Of course he didn’t see it coming, and had nothing left after divorcing Miriam when the crash came.

Taliesin – the house on the hill in Wisconsin.
His first wife Kitty, he married when she was barely out of high school. They had six kids together, of which he is said to have showed little interest. Even after Wright was involved with Mamah, Kitty refused to grant him a divorce. In turn, Miriam refuses to grant him a divorce after he impregnates Olgivanna. What amazes me is how fiercely these women held on to him. Huge personalities in their own right, it shows how charismatic and fascinating Wright must have been. And how ridiculous people are in relationships.
This is where the book falls flat. There is very little about Kitty, although I think that is a choice made by the fact that Lloyd’s life really steamed up as he got older. But the final chapters leading up to Mamah’s murder are quite tedious. After devouring the first 3/4ths of the book, I actually skipped several pages and started again when the new help was hired at Taliesin.
The most interesting part of this book, and probably the most unconventional, is the way Tadashi Sato, Lloyd’s Japanese apprentice, is used to narrate the book. The story opens with Tadashi arriving at Taliesin, meeting Lloyd for the first time, and then the chapters take on the tone of a research or journalistic narrative. Tadashi continues to be a presence by adding historical information, and wry humor, using footnotes.
It is interesting to note that T.C. Boyle lives in a house designed by Frank Lloyd Wright in California.

T.C. Boyle Reads from The Women
Some buildings Wright is famous for:


Filed under: Books, economics, Peace, War | Tags: Axis of Evil, Big Boy Rules, Blackwater, Steve Fainaru, Triple Canopy
Big Boy Rules: America’s Mercenaries Fighting in Iraq by Steve Fainaru
I’ve been listening to the audio version in my car. Usually I avoid books that look like this because they are glorified versions of weapons technology, hero worship, and killing “the other.” This cover was slightly deceiving, and luckily, I had heard a book review on NPR before I saw the cover.
Fainaru has spent a lot of time in Iraq as a embedded journalist were he became interested in the “parallel army” that arose around the US military. When there weren’t enough US soldiers to cover missions, private contract armies arose including the now famous Blackwater, and Fainaru follows two lesser known companies (that contract to Halliburton); Crescent and Triple Canopy.
These contract armies have no rules, no official equipment, very little training, and make enormous paychecks. As opposed to many of the soldiers who make a small enough paycheck on combat pay that they are eligible for welfare benefits, the contract “soldiers” are pulling in $7,000 a month. Fainaru decides, under great controversy, to call these contract workers mercenaries. Hired guns. The problem is that ultimately, since they are contract workers, the US government is paying these bills. Enlisted soldiers stand by insulted while the “mercs” rake it in.
These mercs are the same young men who make up the US army. But they aren’t protected in the same ways. The contract mercenary that Fainaru follows throughout the beginning of the book swore that he would never get captured, and even had a death pact with his fellow mercenaries. John Cote, pronounced Co-Tay, was captured, skinned alive, and beheaded not too long after these series of interviews. He had done two tours of duty in the real US military in Iraq and Afghanistan and decided he couldn’t go back to “civilian life”. He traded his twenties, and eventually his life, for the money and adventure of working in a contract security company.
Because of the lack of rules and military control over the contract mercenaries, there is a lot of confusion over who governs them. When this question was posed to George Bush, Bush laughed and said, “That’s a great question, I’m going to have to ask Rumsfeld about that.” To which Rumsfeld replied that he didn’t know, and thought the President was responsible for that. Which means there was no one there to bring accountability when a merc went crazy and shot up a cab filled with civilians. There is no screening process, several of the mercenaries are self-proclaimed alcoholics and people who “just want to kill.” The residents of Alice’s Restaurant are welcome here.
Likewise, there is no one there when a convoy of mercenaries is driving around with no armor and no back-up support.
At the same time I’ve been reading Literature from the “Axis of Evil”: Writing from Iran, Iraq, North Korea, and Other Enemy Nations released by Words Without Borders.
This is a collection of stories from states considered enemies of the US government. It starts with the official Axis of Evil, Iran, Iraq, and North Korea. Countries that have little to nothing to do with each other, but which had been lumped into the same category by the Bush administration. The editors of this book note that they are in objection to the use of terms like Axis of Evil, and declare that they are also against the US notion of being against free trade of literature and culture with countries it doesn’t agree with. Many of the authors in this book are living in exile, being the subject of that kind of discrimination in their own countries.
The opening story, The Vice Principal in my opinion, is the best. It is an Iranian story of a boy who takes liberties with a writing assignment, and feels the wrath of a teacher who doesn’t agree with his opinion.
In the section of stories by North Korean authors, it is very apparent that there are tight restrictions on what people are allowed to write about, and I would even say that in the first story presented, A Tale of Music it appears that some of the original work was taken out and propaganda about “our dear leader” put in it’s place.
Other countries included are Syria, Libya, Sudan and Cuba. Cuba stands out, in that it is a culture that is much more open about sexuality than most of the others included. With it being the last group of stories included, the open sex and discussion of a character’s girlfriend’s period almost comes as a shock.
These two books were very interesting to read together. The mixing of US force policy and the point of view of the countries our policy is forced upon.
Filed under: Books, economics, Peace, Politics | Tags: Ethiopia Orphans, Haregwoin Teferra, HIV positive orphans, Melissa Greene, There Is no Me Without You
One of the best books I read all of last year was:
There Is No Me Without You: One Woman’s Odyssey to Rescue Her Country’s Children
Heregewoin Teferra was a woman living in Ethiopia, like most people, living her own life and not too concerned with what was going on outside of her immediate friends and family. That is until her husband had a sudden heart attack, and her oldest daughter died of seemingly no cause (although years of emotional abuse from her husband probably had a lot to do with it.)
When she became a recluse and had withdrawn from her social life, a local priest came to her needing help taking care of a couple of teenage orphans. This first attempt at taking in orphans was not her most successful, but after several years, her house turned from a stopover for an orphan or two, to a major house complex, including its own medical facility and school, for dozens of abandoned children, many of them HIV positive.
Fellow blogger Real Mama recently informed me that Mrs. Teferra has passed away, leaving 59 orphans with no care.
WorldWide Orphans Foundation is taking donations and trying to find these children, again most of them HIV positive, new homes. If you choose to donate, make you sure you check the box indicating the money is for the Heregewoin orphanage.
Pictures from Melissa Greene’s wesite:











